How Nostalgic Can You Get?

Most of us can associate nostalgia with homesickness or even with depression, while some does not even bother to know the meaning of the word “nostalgia”. I can say I am bit hesitant on writing about this, for the reason that the nostalgic being in me would bring me back into those memory lanes, where I do not intend to visit for as far as I am concern.

There will come a time in our lives where people or experiences in the past will hunt us, for some, including myself won’t have the ability to discount some bits and pieces of our yesterday, whether we like it or not, the past experiences so much more with the people that we have encountered would certainly have an impact in our so called “memory lane”.

It has been two long weeks now since I do the sleeping at day and working, cooking, cleaning and others things at night, though I know this has something I have done in the past, whenever I feel bored or depressed. There are a lot of things to consider and I certainly accept the fact that some are somewhat ridiculously unnecessary, but what I can do is to think that it’s another one of my nostalgic attacks.

There are a Lot of things written about nostalgia, some claims it can be very good for you, because they say that nostalgia is found to be a potent mood booster. Since memories often star important people in our lives, they may give us a comforting sense of belonging. According to this page that I googled. They also say that people who write about a nostalgic event are more cheerful compared with people who write about an everyday experience. The studies also show that people who write about good memories report higher self-esteem and feel more positively about friendships and close relationships.

Well that’s one of the lamest reasons why you are reading this now, I decided to write something about my new affair with nostalgia, and hope that after this article I would feel more cheerful and hopefully I can already sleep at night and do things at day time.

For Peeps it was a bite of that Red Ribbon Ube cake; for some, it's the funny taste of fish balls or calamares. And for you, it might be the tune of "ever after" or the sight of a little boy stacking Legos that will toss your mind months or decades into the past. Under the right conditions, the tiniest trigger can unleash a flood of sunny memories in even the least sentimental among us.

I was watching this video and pictures in my old laptap, it was a shot of some places here in Manila, Baguio, Boracay and of course Puerto Galera where we used to visit,relax,unwind, walk and survive. There was nothing easy in that places, only some people are. (Pun intended). If I can recall it correctly I had my 1st heart broken in one of that place in a span of 3 years. Well I am also guilty of that charge for I am not perfect myself.

Now the question is, why does nostalgia attacks can be very unpredictable. It’s like a thief in the night, it will strike you when you least expect it. I already hurdle in the past and why do we have to be reminded of those that should be forgotten? Can’t we just get over and move on. But then I remember what I used to tell me ex’s whenever they pop the question “do you still love your ex?” and my quick response would be “I fell in love before, and we are not computers that we can delete whatever it is that we think is not of good interest anymore, so I guess the love is still there, but in another level”

So lesson learned whenever we come to a point where we have this bitter sweet trip down memory lane, just think of it as a time where we reflect of our past, acknowledge the error and try not reenacting the scenario again. But even people who aren't particularly nostalgic can enjoy the benefits of recalling the good old days. For best results, try reminiscing in your head rather than on paper, because if you do it in your head there are chances of not focusing on a single incidence that might probably worsen your anxiety, compared of that on paper. Or just simply have a bite of your favorite chocolate bar while reminiscing on the past. After all I believe that today can be much sweeter that yesterday if you let it.

Alone and Lonely

When people say they understandbut how can they say that when they don’t even know you.

That’s how it feels if you are a person who doesn’t have anyone.

Being raised by your extended family is not a bad thing, I cannot think of anything that will make it wrong, I was raised by my uncle. I was the favorite of all because probably I am the first nephew. I thought this was enough, until today.

I’m 26, single; both of my family members have their own respective families. I feel like I was robbed of something I can’t explain, sometimes I feel like an orphan.

Why? … I wish I can answer that too.

Although my life is not that bad at all comparing to other kids who came from a broken family, My parents and my uncle did send me to the best school here, I get to travel every now and then, sometimes twice a year and most of the time multiple destinations during college, so I use my passport a lot, while others could only dream of that.

When you are a result of an unsuccessful marriage, you are always branded as a product of a broken family.

Is it really the family that is broken or is it you who has to deal with it for the rest of your life?

Me, Jeffy And Prozac

It was given by my friend from Egypt and it doesnt mean that I am currently on meds, what kind? but of course the best... Prozac , Buspar and Dormival, well i guess theres nothing to be ashamed of being a neurotic, we all are neurotics in our own little way,thanks to Jeffy for all the advise and for listening and also now my wallet is lighter than ever LOL! really i'm starting to believe that we now live in PROZAC NATION! i have a long way to go...just trust the happy pill better than you the pilar pilapil LOL!!!

KARMA

What goes around comes around...Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans...Nothing last forever...The universe may not always play fair, but its got helluva sense of humor...Try everything twice...You are never too old to learn something stupid...Dont run, you will die tired...Smile... Coz tomorrow will be worse...Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway...Nothing is final until youre dead...When the going gets tough, the tough gets going... When the going gets rough, the tough gets rough....

Pain (it was a re-post from my multiply account)

What do I get in trying to be a good friend?

Pain- lots of it- and I’m still aching

Time has proved again that indeed, what I don’t know wouldn’t throb me

so now- I’m in circles- would I still like to be perfectly perceptive of what’s the latest buzz in their lives and have the risk of being hurt again…

too early for me to give the answers

but in silence I will continue to be a friend.

Erstwhile Conversation

“happiness is a state of mind- when one wants to be happy he should convince his body, soul and mind that he should be happy” – ang gulo noh? D ko din gets eh- but this what I got to hear from a friend when I told him that I’m no longer happy….

State of mind nga lang ba ang happiness???? Paano nga ba masasabi ng tao na Masaya cya? Ano ang basis, parameters para maging Masaya ang isang tao? Ditto pumpasok ang individual differences- sa paniniwala ko lahat ng tao, iba iba ang aspeto o bagay na maaring magpaligaya sa iisang tao- but then again, it would me much correct if I state it this way – pwdeng pare parehong bagay pero iba iba ng level.

As the adage goes “what’s best for you is not necessarily best for me”

It greatly depends on the need of a person, and I’m talking about quantity and quality here.

Time and again I kept telling my friends- na life is just a cycle- like ngayon malungkot ako, kasi dati Masaya ako. Madami ang kokontra- pero I firmly believe that nothing lasts forever not even sadness for that matter kasi nga cycle ang lahat.

When I was still in college, and there are times that I can’t get the material things that I want – what I usually do, is go out and invite friends to play football- kasi in that way I’ll start to feel good again- I’ll come back to my senses, that even though I can’t have all the thing that I want – I’m still very much blessed compared to the others.

With that practice ko narealize – na whatever I’m into right now- there are many others out there who are experiencing much more that what I have- and it comes into various forms, pwdeng mas Masaya, pwdeng mas malungkot.

At the end of a day – I am a nobody to complain – but I am allowed to wonder and ask.

all about ME, MYSELF & I

First of all, who am I? My name is Redord,a born leo grew up with pride and care. It's very hard for me to describe myself but this, I guess, is difficult for everybody.I think I'm a relatively thoughtful and quiet person, especially towards people I don't know very well. However, people who I call my friends, know me as a very lively and talkative person. Basically, I think I'm a positive and life-affirming person. In my mind, everybody can reach nearly every goal, in case he/she really believes in it. You just need a great portion of staying power, motivation, and enthusiasm - and I think, I do fulfill these "requirements". At least till now, I was able to turn most of my dreams into reality - and some are still waiting to become reality. I also believe that I'm patient and relatively calm - in the past, this wasn't necessarily the case but certain events in my life changed this behavior. Even so, sometimes I still can be very quick-tempered. Furthermore, I think that I'm quite quick-witted - I often come up with an answer like that and moreover, I do not just sit down and take things (especially those that bother me) like that. Unfortunately, that's not always favorable - sometimes I have the feeling that people get a wrong impression of me - the impression that I always have to have the last word. Apart from that, I am curious and therefore I get relatively enthusiastic about certain ideas, things, etc. I also do not shrink back from challenges - on the contrary, most of the time I love to accept challenges.Although I'm able to be spontaneous, I rather prefer to think over certain things in advance. Therefore, I sometimes have the problem of racking my brain over things, which do not occur in the end. But meanwhile, I'm working on this "problem".Moreover, I'm very reliable - if I promise something I'll keep it. That's why I can't stand unreliable persons - so thats all i want to give away for now!